An Obsession with being Single.
Or rather, not being single. I hate it, and yet I like it. I like not having anyone to answer to, being able to make immediate decisions without having to wait on input from a 'partner', sleeping late, staying up late, getting up early or going to bed early, without anyone asking me why, or getting upset that I do. Eating a meal when I want to, and not being on a time table for someone else. Rushing home and rushing around making sure everything is okay before "he" walks in the door. Taking 2 hours in the bathroom if I want and not having "him" come in and plop his butt down and bother me. There are so many little things that are nice about being single and home alone.
But then there are those things that you miss too. Yelling back as you walk out the door "honey, I'm running to the store, do you want me to pick up anything for you?", having someone there to help you make those hard decisions and point out options that you don't think of on your own, someone to sleep in with on Sunday morning, stay up late with on Friday night, snuggle up with in the early evening hours and doze off with you. Someone to cook for and tell you how they like the food. Praising you for the hard work you do keeping the house in shape and making things easier for them when they've had a hard day at work. Someone to come in the bathroom and sit with you and talk about their day when you are taking that long overdue relaxing bath, maybe wash your back...or even sit in the tub with you.
Yep for every little reason that you enjoy being single, the same little reason can be turned to be enjoyed and appreciated by sharing it with someone. There are days I miss all the togetherness, and days I love being a lone individual. Sometimes we have no choice giving one of them up, and the other, we have all the choice in. I'm doing a balancing act in my mind right now, wanting both and not quite sure which one I want more.
Is there a point to this blog? Nope, just some rambling thoughts. I do that every now and then. When I've had too much time to think.
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Maybe if you had that special someone, you could have it both ways, if they maintained their own residence, send them home when you want to be alone or ask them to stay when you are feeling romantic. I know what you are saying, I went through the same thing when I was single, right after the x moved out, except he was forever coming over looking around to make sure I was still keep the house up to his standards, changed the locks, then got peace in my life.
I was just sitting out at my aunts talking about her being alone now, my uncle passed away a few years ago, she doesn't date to my knowledge, but I would love for her to find some nice man to spend some time with, don't think she is looking. She says the hardest part is making her own decisions and eating-hates to cook for one-fast food it is.
I hate to cook for one too. Fortunately, I only have to do it a few times a month. But cooking for 3 or 4 is hard too, when you are used to cooking for 8. LOL
I've met someone, but I don't know what the deal is. Friends only, or what. I think he's not happy with me at the moment, because I got a little too close to him the other night while I was sick, and now he's sick too. Oops. I told him I wasn't going to hug him. That's what he gets for sneaking a hug in on me. LOL. I guess I shouldn't expect him to sneak a kiss in anytime soon. LOL
But honestly, the whole idea of being with someone new, is too scary to think about. So I've not even tried to ask him where this 'friendship' is heading in his mind. I'll just keep thinking. <shrug>I think when you meet that special someone all those things your worrying about won't be so important. It just happens....I do think you can have it all. Good Luck....
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I think that the older you get the harder dating gets. I am not really a bar person, probably has to with the ex always being there, but that leaves very few places to go out to and meet someone at.
Tell him you are sorry that he is sick, and I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
I've told him. Now I wish whoever made me sick would say they are sorry. Because I'm about to cough up a freaking lung.
My husband has had that cold thing for over a week, I am so ready for him to feel better, but I think I started it, only last a couple days with me.
I always heard good things come to those who wait. My husband and I knew each other as teens. We went our own way then came upon each other again. I had said numerous times, I wont never get married again, and here we are. No regrets.
I hope everyone that is single and wants someone can find that special someone. Maybe ? this site could have a singles classified section or something?????????????
That might even get more members joining?
It's been in my mind for a while... Look for something possibly...
AFP Dating...
At one time they would hold a singles dance on Sunday nights on Broadway. If you started something like that maybe they would pass out info at the door with the raffle tickets, if they still do that stuff???????????? The ?Elks? I believe.
It was at the Elks, I worked with someone that went to all of the singles stuff looking for that special someone, ran into that person last fall, still single.
You could do a singles thing like Meet the Parents show that was on last year, but instead of meeting the parents, they have to meet the other AFP members, it could be a blast!