An Obsession with being Single.
Or rather, not being single. I hate it, and yet I like it. I like not having anyone to answer to, being able to make immediate decisions without having to wait on input from a 'partner', sleeping late, staying up late, getting up early or going to bed early, without anyone asking me why, or getting upset that I do. Eating a meal when I want to, and not being on a time table for someone else. Rushing home and rushing around making sure everything is okay before "he" walks in the door. Taking 2 hours in the bathroom if I want and not having "him" come in and plop his butt down and bother me. There are so many little things that are nice about being single and home alone.
But then there are those things that you miss too. Yelling back as you walk out the door "honey, I'm running to the store, do you want me to pick up anything for you?", having someone there to help you make those hard decisions and point out options that you don't think of on your own, someone to sleep in with on Sunday morning, stay up late with on Friday night, snuggle up with in the early evening hours and doze off with you. Someone to cook for and tell you how they like the food. Praising you for the hard work you do keeping the house in shape and making things easier for them when they've had a hard day at work. Someone to come in the bathroom and sit with you and talk about their day when you are taking that long overdue relaxing bath, maybe wash your back...or even sit in the tub with you.
Yep for every little reason that you enjoy being single, the same little reason can be turned to be enjoyed and appreciated by sharing it with someone. There are days I miss all the togetherness, and days I love being a lone individual. Sometimes we have no choice giving one of them up, and the other, we have all the choice in. I'm doing a balancing act in my mind right now, wanting both and not quite sure which one I want more.
Is there a point to this blog? Nope, just some rambling thoughts. I do that every now and then. When I've had too much time to think.
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Oh, I was actually married for about 7 years. Long story/short novel...
Divorced around same time the free press project started - May 2005.
I'm going to start an AFP Dating ideas thread I think. Is there interest in something like that? AFP providing a matchmaking service of some type? Free, of course...
Be careful, kpaul. Could be some liability there without the proper disclaimers.
A few of us 30 and 40 something posters on a local forum here tried to get together on our own. Someone started a thread about singles, one thing led to another and we planned a meetup. At the last minute, everyone started saying they couldn't make it for one reason or another, so it got cancelled. No one ever brought it up again.
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It sounds to me like "single" is the only way to be in that town 'ssippi! Hopefully, one day, voila! You got yours, and that's good. You don't ever want to upset that. Pixi readily admits she is lucky and on a short time experience (for now anyways).
Life only goes around once, have fun and love, people. -VicNormal
I'll tell you when it sucks most to be single. When you get a phone call while you are driving down the road, and you have to answer it because it's family, and you never know when a family call is important. Then you hear that your father has died....and the only one you have to lean on is yourself, and your kids, and the kids are in worse shape than you are.
My dad died today. Grieving alone is going to suck. :(
Sorry to hear that. Condolences.
I'm sorry, CC.
Holidays and birthday suck too, while we're talking about occasions that suck to be single.
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Sorry to hear of your father!
Let me know if there is anything I can do... I am so sorry. Big Hugs...
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CC...you do not have to grieve alone. You have all of us....and your kids. I didn't even know your dad had been ill lately. I am so sorry for your loss. If there is anything you need...let me know.
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CC I am so sorry about your dad, please let me know if there is anything you need! You are never alone, you have all of us, plus your kids and grandkids.
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