I'm not needy, much.

good  for you cc.  it is the hardest thing i have had to to is depend on others. the best thing i have depended on was my husband  and he depends on me. we have that 50/50  thing going on. always have.

Don't take my post personal CC. Sometimes it makes a guy feel good when he can help out. I am fully aware that you aren't afraid to tackle things on your own. I don't know you but from your posts I have gotten a good idea of what you are about. Some of the things you take on amaze me and some are quite funny. Sometimes it doesn't anything to take a little help. If he has offered it won't hurt to have him get your tires taken care of. I am sure you can get his computer running like new, scrap some wall paper, fix his scanner or h$ll maybe do a little plumbing under the house! J/k

   CC LEARN TO LET SOMEONE THAT CARES FOR YOU HELP SOME IT'S OK THAT IS HOW PEOPLE DO THINGS.I CARE AND I HELPED OUT.SO IT'S OK LIKE YOU IN A LOT OF WAYS I DON'T LET PEOPLE HELP ME ALOT WIHT DOING SOMETHING FOR THEM I HAVE PAID ,COOKED, REPEARED THINGS TO HELP SOMEONE THAT HAS HELPED ME IN THE PASSED.IF THIS IS ALL ABOUT AB GETTING YOU SOME TRIES HE WORKS WITH MEN THAT CAN HELP (MEANING CHEEPER) THEN YOU OR I CAN FIND. JUST MY .2

Sometimes we like to feel useful you know what I mean? Like ballguy says, it is in our (men) DNA to protect and serve, in a way, and if we see a way to do that and perhaps make a small sacrifice but have a positive impact in helping a woman out, we are compelled to do so!

Now I know that three of you that have responded....KNOW I don't turn down help.....especially when it is to benefit my kids.  This isn't so much what it's all about.  It's my own pride, and I don't mean the pride that gets in the way..but the pride that you feel when you have accomplished something on your own.  But even more so, it's the implication of the stereotype.  Man does the heavy lifting, women cook to repay.   Men go out and earn a living, women cook to earn their keep. Bull crap.

My dad bought me my first car when I was 17.  Before I was allowed to drive it, I had to change the tire 3 times....all by myself.  Before I was allowed to have a car, he made me learn to drive a stick shift, even though my car was going to be an automatic.  It's been instilled into me to be able to do it myself.  

So my point is....don't stereotype me... don't make me the helpless female that needs a man to do for her.  I can do most of it myself.  But....after you hold my hand....we'll see what I'll let you do for me. ;)

CC, look at it this way:

Sometimes allowing someone to do something for you is actually giving them the gift of feeling good about themselves.  Being on the receiving end like that can be a powerful thing, rather than a needy feeling.  Trust that it will work out in the end. All people need to experience being both givers and receivers.

The one that suggested Letting AB help was me... but only after your comment of..

That is how Men feel we can better a Womans life.. Things we can do to make life a bit easier on them.. I did plenty for Momma_Mayhem when I started dating her.. One of the first things was within weeks I put all new tires around her car.. She drove many miles to and from work.. plus.. She was driving twins that were 7 months old, and a daughter of 6 yrs. around on those tires.. 

One of those tires had a slipped belt.. (which by the way is very dangerous) on the front of her car.. Could cause a severe accident.. All tires were well worn and I could not bear the fact that those children, or herself would be in danger..

I'm sorry in your blog that you felt I was somehow Stereotyping you for that..With the comment that I made...  It was not of my intention to do so... 

Sadly there are things many can not accomplish for there self as easily, as many others can offer a form of assistance to better another's world.. That is what Men do for Women we enjoy ..

The only reason I said Cook him a Nice meal was that you somehow raised a Basketball team + of Girls.. so I figured they were fed somehow... Though a meal would suffice any man.. You know the way to a man heart is threw his stomach.. lmao.. 

Truly Sorry that you felt that the comment was offensive.. 

PS.. Maybe offer some of those "Snuggles" you two speak of.. that also works..LOL 

No more snuggles.

Not funny.....I am really not smiling right now. :(