What is it with people these days??? My 7 year old son and I went to a birthday party today. The child whose birthday it was plays on his soccer team and is an absolutely delightful little boy. But as soon as some of the other guests started arriving, I could see things were going to be going down hill.
One of the first people I was introduced to seemed rather pleasant, shook my hand, then pointed out her children to me. She said, “Those are my three hellions over there.” She said this as if she were proud of the fact that her little darlings were complete brats with absolutely no manners. Her daughter was a loud-mouthed, trash talking idiot. They were at a bowling alley and she was talking smack to other kids about their lack of bowling skills, meanwhile, she had one of the lowest scores of all the kids. Every time a ball came up the chute, whether it was hers or not, she snatched it. My son kept looking at me and making faces as if to say, “Can you believe this pushy broad???”
Then it was time for the kids to line up so they could all sign the birthday boy’s bowling pin he got to take home with him. This same little bimbette jumps right in front of my son in the line so she’ll be next. So I said to her, “You need to get in line, Honey.” Her reply, “I am in line!” I was thinking, “Dangit, I wish I could slap the snot out of this kid!” So I promptly told her to take herself to the back of the line, which she did.
Her younger brother cried practically the whole last half hour of the party because he couldn’t go to the game room and play video games. Then the poor birthday boy attempts to open his gifts. He’s being mobbed by the three hellions, and a couple of other kids. The birthday boy’s mom attempted to get all the kids to sit down to watch him open his gifts so she might actually be able to get some pictures. They all acted as if she wasn’t even there and their parents stood by and did nothing. I told mine to sit down, which he did, but then he was bummed because he couldn’t see anything. I told him I was sorry he couldn’t see but I was proud of him for being such a good boy and not acting a fool. He wanted to leave at that point because he can’t stand to be around brats.
Finally, the clueless mother of the three said she had to leave. So my friend is trying to get their gift bags and make sure the boys don’t get the gift bags she’d made for the girls, meanwhile, they’re just snatching them off the table and my friend had to snatch them back and tell them to wait a minute, which the little one ignored and snatched another.
I don’t know what parents are teaching their kids these days, if anything. What ever happened to teaching our kids common courtesy, waiting your turn, sharing, etc.? When I tell my son he can’t do something, there is no fit throwing or crying. It’s infuriating to me how lazy parents have become and it makes me worry about what our society will be like when this generation of kids become adults. Will the few with manners get run over by the ones who think they’re entitled to everything they want when they want it? I don’t know, but I have a bad feeling that it’s going to be very ugly.
I agree with you 110%!! It
I agree with you 110%!! It used to be "they were from the other side of the tracks" now it seems the tracks, (rules, morals,) just plain common sense have all gone to heck. Parent's don't care---most feel they are entitled to get whatever whenever(welfare, etc....) most children today are in daycare -- the parent's are absent ones or only part-time parents. Gone are the days of respect -- it's amazing what I see everyday in the schools. Yet we cannot blame the teachers, we cannot blame the parents....what's left....hmmm let me think about that....oh yeah here it is....give parents the control again!!! STOP making it easy for the children to get what they want, how about earning things like we had to -- RULES WERE RULES when we were younger, go back to how things were for the sake of the children, NOT because parents are just damn too lazy these days....well I've said my peace, enough of my rambling........
I experience so much of
I experience so much of what you guys are talking about, every week at church, you talk about disrespect when they should be on their best behavior, I could not imagine talking, laughing, hiding in the bathroom, hitting, kicking, pinching, or whatever else they can come up with during church, espeically during prayer. Oh, my favorite (not) was a couple weeks back when a child filled a tic tac container with water and came in to dump it on other children!
Cneal, you hit the nail on
Cneal, you hit the nail on the head. LAZY PARENTS! Parents are so self-centered, all they want to do is stick their kids in front of a TV or video game, or dump them off on someone so they can go out and get their groove on. Every book I've read on parenting says that the formative years birth-4 or 5 are the most important. They will shape who your child will become.
When my son was born, his dad and I were already split up so I've been a single parent since he was born. So I decided that while he was little, I wasn't going to date, I was going to be there to raise my child. For six years, he never got dumped on grandparents or babysitters....it was me and him. He's gone to daycare since he was 4 months old, but I made sure that the daycare was one that agreed with my philosophy on child rearing. Yeah, it sucked and it was lonely at times, but I really believed that I was doing what was important for my child and I don't regret it one bit.
Raising respectful children is a non-stop job. I wish every parent took it seriously.
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AMEN!! I'm having some
AMEN!! I'm having some behavior problems with itty bitty, and I know it's not because I'm a lazy parent. I attribute it to the fact that the ex got custody of her, and then he's rarely there to supervise and discipline her. She gets to do whatever she wants to do. Then I have just a few days a month to try to correct what he's not correcting. Sometimes I just want to pull my hair out. I constantly have to tell her that whatever it is that is inappropriate and unacceptable behavior is not allowed when she is with me.
He rarely if ever even takes her out of the house. Whereas, we go places quite often. Her social skills and public behavior are lacking in being acceptable because she is kept home all the time. So in those few days a month I have her, I have to teach her those too. It's sad and frustrating for me. All the rest of my kids know how to act and even they get frustrated with her when we are out in public.
A parent has to be there, and they have to put in kids in the positions to learn how to behave properly. I have always hated to hear parents not doing that.
How many times have you heard "I can't take my kids here or there because they don't know how to act." Good grief, take your kids here or there, and then TEACH them how to act while in the situation. If you don't, they will never learn.
CC-Gal wrote: How many
How many times have you heard "I can't take my kids here or there because they don't know how to act." Good grief, take your kids here or there, and then TEACH them how to act while in the situation. If you don't, they will never learn.
I've heard that a lot! I hate it. When my son was little, people used to come up to me in restaurants and comment on how well-behaved my son was, as if it was something completely out of the ordinary, which it is.
One more thing I didn't mention about the mother with the three brats yesterday....she was telling the mother of the birthday boy that she just gave him money instead of getting him a present because one of her kids wanted to get him one toy and another wanted to get him something else. I'm standing there listening to her and I'm thinking to myself, "Who is the parent here???....Whose money is buying this present???" It was obvious that this woman allows these kids to run her house. Sad!
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I always hear some broad or
I always hear some broad or her doofus ole man with ONE kid saying "I just can't handle Little Tommy or Little Suzy!" Ummm WHAT!?!?!?!?! I have 3 children and I handle ALL 3 of them just fine.
Only rule: Mom and Dad ARE THE BOSS! WHAT WE SAY GOES! Our house,Our rules. Don't like it tough!
NEVER let your child(ren) THINK he/she/they are in charge. Not even ONCE!
It only takes one time and they think they can mow over you-WRONG. NOT gonna happen lil darlings!
I can't stand to be around kids that are like Sippy said. I usually try and find the furthest spot away so my smart arsed comments don't start drama or my dirty looks of Boy I'd love to bust your arse, don't start drama.
I can't stand going to the store with someone that lets their kid(s) run friggen nutso. Running through the store like they are in a relay race at school,grabbing all over items,arguing as if nobody can see or hear them,....
Mine know better. They were taught early on you don't ask for anything,you don't touch anything,you stay right here. If I intend on paying for something other than what I went to get then I'll inform them it's ok to get one item.
I hate being around a kid that doesn't grasp INDOOR voice and OUTDOOR voice.
Being stuck in a car with a loud mouthed kid makes me want to jump out while it's moving. Ya got the loud mouth kid and them mom turning the radio up to drown the child out. Very annoying and I hate it. Shut your kid up and turn the radio down!!!
While on the phone I hear MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM MOOOOOOOOOM!!! I want to go outside! Wow that was real important! Doesn't your kid know when you're on the phone they are to be quiet??? Hate that too! Spending an hour trying to talk all because that kid hasn't been taught DO NOT bother me while on the phone UNLESS someone is hurt! A whole 10 minute chat turns into an hour. Eventually I just hang up and I don't answer when they call back to see what happened. Too late I've done moved on. NEXT!
The worst is backtalk. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh how that is such a NO NO with me. I can't stand it when someone lets their kid do that. Geeez get walked all over much do ya? Wrong they better not try that crap with me.
When I tell mine get this or that done I better hear Yes Mam and not a bunch of whining and but whyyyyy? Why do I have too? I don't want to! Ohhh no. Ya better say Yes Mam and get right on it.
Mine aren't perfect. Nobody has a perfect child. However if they came to your house you'd have very little problems from them. They might sigh or mumble but that gets fixed really easy. Just say WHAT?!?! Do you have something to say to me!?!? NO MAM! Then I say oh ok I was pretty sure I heard you backtalking. NO MAM! Oh ok well get your stuff done then and when you're done get your pencil and paper because you're going to write how sorry you are for backtalking. Yes mam(in a damn I got caught voice).
Yeah I'm free.Free Falling!
Oh Sippy I was just curious
Oh Sippy I was just curious what the mom said after you told her kid to get in the back of the line. Those are the ones that want to vent in your face about how you don't correct their kid blah blah blah.
Yeah I'm free.Free Falling!
AW wrote:Oh Sippy I was
She didn't say anything. She's scared of her own damn kids, so she certainly wasn't going to say anything to me.
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